I specialize in couples therapy and relationship dynamics. I am a Gestalt trained therapist and use the Bader-Pearson Developmental Model of couples counseling.
The Developmental Model for Couples integrates Attachment Theory, Differentiation Theory and Neuroscience into a specific modality designed to improve diagnosis and treatment for couples.
If someone were to tell you that taking a freezing cold shower would benefit you, what would your reaction be?
Very likely, it would be “no thanks, my insides quiver just thinking about it!”
But it’s these intense and unexpected situations that I enthusiastically jump right into.
Because I’ve been through hell and back, I don’t flinch when couples come to me with the crisis of an affair, eruptive fighting, or the paralysis of isolation inside their relationship.
After the honeymoon period was over, my partner and I went through years of scrapping, so believe me when I say “I know what you’re going through.”
There’s a Japanese practice of using liquid gold to fill in the cracks of broken pottery. Kintsugi, as it’s called, teaches that broken objects are not something to hide but to display with pride.
Many therapists might be ashamed to admit their troubled years, but I’m proud to say that facing years of conflict in my relationship has given me a 360* perspective on what it’s like to screw up, own up to it… and then stick with it until the relationship is strong and vibrant.
This is why I’m so excited to work with couples. I believe that your life, and your relationship, can become even more more refined thanks to its scars.
You’ll know we’re a good fit to work together if you…
We’ll work with your inner child, your attachment style, and the current moments of “is-ness” to bring you to a place of confidence. To helping you and your partner reconnect. To soothing the recurring fights. And recognizing the good in one another again.
When I was struggling, I wish someone had said to me, “Hey, I can help you.” But no one ever did.
And now it is my greatest honor to offer myself as a beacon of hope, no matter how much it feels like you’re “in the pit.”