If someone were to tell you that taking a freezing cold shower would benefit you, what would your reaction be?
Because I’ve been through hell and back, I don’t flinch when couples come to me with the crisis of an affair, eruptive fighting, or the paralysis of isolation inside their relationship.
After the honeymoon period was over, my partner and I went through years of scrapping, so believe me when I say “I know what you’re going through.”
There’s a Japanese practice of using liquid gold to fill in the cracks of broken pottery. Kintsugi, as it’s called, teaches that broken objects are not something to hide but to display with pride.
Many therapists might be ashamed to admit their troubled years, but I’m proud to say that facing years of conflict in my relationship has given me a 360° perspective on what it’s like to screw up, own up to it… and then stick with it until the relationship is strong and vibrant.
This is why I’m so excited to work with couples. I believe that your life and your relationship, can become even more refined thanks to its scars.
You’ll know we’re a good fit to work together if you…
- Feel like you’re losing your mind in your relationship
- Have trouble sitting with your feelings of hopelessness
- Have a fear of abandonment
- Are tired of the same old stuff, and desperate for a change
- Struggle with shame and insecurity
- Are highly motivated to start living your life in a different way
We’ll work with your inner child, your attachment style, and the current moments of “is-ness” to bring you: to a place of confidence, to help you and your partner reconnect, to soothe the recurring fights, and to recognize the good in one another again.
When I was struggling, I wish someone had said to me, “Hey, I can help you.” But no one ever did.
And now it is my greatest honor to offer myself as a beacon of hope, no matter how much it feels like you’re “in the pit.”